It was the summer of 2014. I was 29, and the number 30 was looming over my head like a dark cloud. I had always imagined I’d be married by now, maybe already starting a family—but I was still stuck in the same painful cycles.

I was always chasing emotionally unavailable or damaged men. I craved the ones who gave me just enough to stay hooked, but never what I truly needed. The ones who were crazy about me? I felt no attraction—I got the ick.

It dawned on me that I had never experienced mutual love. It was always one-sided. Always chasing or being chased. Never aligned.

That summer, after a soul-crushing almost-situationship fizzled out, something in me snapped.I realized: I could not live this way anymore. I had to change.

So I made a radical decision—

❌ I stopped dating entirely.

❌ I stopped obsessing.

❌ I stopped hoping the next guy would be “it.”

Instead, I focused on me.

I decided I would act like a woman with high self-worth—even if I didn’t fully feel it yet. I envisioned the highest version of myself, and let her lead. I talked to myself with kindness. I stopped fearing the future. I started trusting life.

And by the end of the summer? Everything shifted.

Men who had once been lukewarm were begging for my attention.

High-quality men started showing up everywhere.

And that same high school ex who had ghosted me weeks earlier? He suddenly asked me out.

By our third date, he told me he wanted to marry me.

One year later, we were.

And one year after that, we had our first baby.

That summer changed everything—because I changed me.

And now I want to help you do the same.